People Don't Change...

... they become more of who they really are.

We all hear, quite often, "you've changed", or "they have changed", "you are changing." Well, I don't belive it and I'll tell you why. We're going to dig deep into the depths of a person and the life circulating around them. You see, I don't believe in change. Not in a person, anyway. I believe in conformity, adapting to your environment, making adjustments. You are who you are and, naturally, it is/would be only natural for a person to conform into the person that they need to be in order to appropriately handle their life at that given point and time. This does not mean that, that person has changed. The reason being is that, once all is said and done or whatever the situation may be, is finally over... then that person goes back to being the person that they have always been from the very start, which is themselves. Who they were before they encountered a situation that would cause them to have to reach outside of their element.

We are all born a human being. With our very own, original characteristics. DNA, gene pools, genetic strands. Our very own molecular structures that create and form us into the human beings that we are. We are who we are and contain our very own personalities. This all does not go without saying that everyone was built a certain way and being made the person that you were made to be, you can't always remain in a bland state to where you will never be able to survive new adaptations that which were being placed upon you. In other words, sometimes your original characteristics just don't work for whatever obstacle is being placed in front of you. You adjust yourself to where you need to be in order to complete the obstacle. But in the mist of all things, you are still you and will always be you.

Let's talk about relationships. Before you became settled in a relationship, let's say that you had a mindframe where nobody that you had ever fucked with really mattered. You would fuck'em and leave'em, hit it and quit it, beat the monkey and spit it out... you get my point. So, it hits you one day that you would like to settle down. Ok that's fine. So you find someone and you conform into the person that they need you to be in order for this relationship shit to work. Everything's great. You've adjusted to your new environment. Adapted. But low and behold if this relationship were to end... you are still you. You tried being in a relationship at least once in your life. This means that you had to conform into a better representation of yourself for you and the spouse to work. Compromise. Negotiate. You got the experience and so you go back to being the person that you never really stopped being in the beginning. You are who you are and no one can change that. Now that we are free, we just become more of who we really are.

Let's talk about someone famous and money situations. Let's talk about "Baby", Lil Wayne's step-dad. I saw him on Basketball Wives the other night and I watched his demeanor and how he acted as Evelyn talked to him. He spoke and carried himself as a regular person. And in this meeting, he had his baby girl with him which I found to be somewhat shocking. Before the rap game, Baby was Baby. It's funny how people run into money and then everyone else on the outside looking in says, "money changed them." Well, I'm here to tell you that I don't think so. At the end of the day, Wayne is still Wayne, Baby is still Baby.... they never changed. They only conformed and adapted to the lifestyle that which they were given due to the fact that they make quite a bit of money. Nothing changed about them. They don't talk any more proper than they did before. They don't dress anymore professional than they did before. They are still the same person. And guess what? If ever the money was to disappear, they still remain the same person. The only difference, then, would be the fact that they are without the material possessions. And everyone knows that material does not make, break or change a person. So you see, technically, we're talking about "the person". So within them, nothing has changed.

Have you ever noticed that the longer you are around a person, how often new things are introduced to you by that person? You can't receive, learn and understand a whole person all in a few minutes, a 24 hour time period, weeks, months, or even years. It takes time for a person to get to know someone. And over that time period, you can choose whether you like or dislike that person, because we all know that no one will ever be the same as they were from day one after you have gotten to know a small portion of them and who they really are. Hell, half the time, some people don't even know themselves. That doesn't mean that they have or are changing, though. And it doesn't make them any less of the person that which they already are. People are brought into situations, survival modes kick in: shyness, giddiness, introverts, etc. Until a person feels comfortable enough to let down their guards, no one receives the real experience behind that person. In other words, they never changed. You were given small portion sizes of a personality. You got to know them and found out who they really were. True colors begin to show... no change... just them.

I guess that means we should be a better judgement in character if we have a problem with the way things have progressed/not progressed over a time span. *shrugs shoulders* I mean what can you say? Comfortability brings along the realness of people. There may be certain things you do with your family that you don't do with your spouse. But that doesn't make you any different OR it doesn't mean that you have changed because the spouse has never seen you act in this manor before. It only means you are being more of yourself in the presence of certain people. You opened yourself up... in the eyes of the partner... however, in everyone else's eye, you have always been this way.

Until next time bloggers... don't change for no one LOL!!