From Housewife to Hoe

LMAO!!! Yes indeedy! I just love it when my brain kicks into high gear. The story is, I was looking at something on TV the other day and the subject matter had absolutely nothing to do with this post but I began to think: ~insert smart people symbols with a whimsical effect here~ If you can't turn a hoe into a housewife, how is it that a housewife can turn into a hoe. Given any case or any type of circumstance, usually there just has to be some type of reverse effect, unless we're speaking of some sort of terminal illness. But we're not. Also, let me include something else here you guys... Sense So Common has made a mistake (yes! this has everything to do with this post, I'll get to my point in a minute) I wrote a post a while back on "People Don't Change"... well, dammit, I lied!!! It is, in fact, THEEE TRUTH that a person can absolutely drive another into insanity... or in this case, to being a hoe. And I'll explain.

In the past, I have spoken of the little dreamy aspects of the new beginnings of a relationship. 2 people meet, they fuck, fall in love, so forth and so forth. Maybe in that order, maybe not... but, that's besides the point. As relationships tend to move forward, some people get married, they may drift apart, or they may remain at a stand-still. "Stand-still" meaning that they perform the motions of a relationship but not really. Maybe I'll blog about that scenario later... oh wait a minute, I did... "Faketionships"!! LMAO!!! Anywho, there comes a time in a relationship where the roads turn into one and then we have the person who is putting in the work and the other that which is not. Let me explain this in a better format.

SCENARIO HERE:
"Boy", "Girl" meet. Confirm relationship. Attempt to build future. Things begin to fall apart because someone may have gotten bored somewhere. "Boy" begins to do things that are out of the norm of your average relationship. Maybe he is cheating or maybe he is abusive. Whatever the case may be, "Girl" is not happy. At some point and time after the OFFICIAL fuck-up has been done and no one can take the agony and pain from the bullshit, they call it quits. "Girl" is distraught (IE: booo-hooo, he doesn't love me... he cheated on me... blah blah) "Boy" is probably still doing what he has always done best, fuck bitches and party like a rockstar. Anyway, time goes by and she may have used this time to gather her thoughts (which would/should be the necessary recovery, but that's not what this post is about) OOORRRR, she may have used this time to retaliate/rebel. Simply feeling the need to get back at all men, for the one that has done her wrong. Here, we have just witnessed the unfortunate change of the housewife, now reformed into a hoe.

I understand that some women can have healthy sex-drives (if that's what you want to call it). I also understand that some people have certain things that they like to point out about a person in order to put them in a "Hoe" category. But let's dig deep into the mind or the history of a person. As a matter of fact, let's take this back to the Domino Effect. This is A domino effet, a case of trial and error, cause and effect, you give to get. And I'm giving you this, so you should get the picture. Get it? LMAO! Anyway, my self-appointed Psych Degree tells me that she's hurting and she needs to understand what was going on outside of her circumference, because that would be the reason why she couldn't maintain her man. And even though she's a little confused as to exactly what it is that happened between the two of them, it also tells us that she wants to get her mind off of the situation (which is him) and she feels that this is the only way to keep her time occupied. She begins to search for the attention that she lacked for so long.

NOW, it usually doesn't take very long for everyone to begin to notice that there is a new hoe in town. At one point and time, she may have been incognito. This was only because she thought that she had met the love of her life and even though there were no vows exchanged, she figured she would still dedicate her time to the only thing that she thought was making her happy (him). But now, she has a new swag and is actually becoming a very popular socialite. But the "disaster" behind the making is now mad about how things turned out. Yes... I sense a little jealousy from "him". He would be the one to be the first person to call her out on her new found trade, "oh that bitch is a hoe now". The very first one to preach about what she is and how she is doing it. But not once has he taken responsibility for the simple fact that he was the one that created this monster. She changed, and it was all because of him. But where can you find a man that would actually be willing to carry that burden on their back? A man who would take the wrap for a crime committed? No one enjoys having the finger pointed at them or being BLAMED for something that wasn't for a good cause. So what does he do? He denies that he had anything to do with the turn out. His response would probably sound a little along the lines of, "she a grown ass woman... I didn't make her do shit." So, while she is quote-unquote "living her life" (as she see's it now), he is down-talking her and covering up the fact that he was not an accomplice to any of the accusations that have just been made.

Referencing back to "People Don't Change..", I came to the conclusion that certain situations/people/etc. are placed in our lives to help us become the person that we are naturally suppose to be. But when you are stuck in the mist of transitioning from one personality to another because of an obstacle you ventured through or defeated the once-love-now-enemy, you began to wonder, "is this really who I am suppose to be?" You have washed away years of pain with instant intimate acts with random men (or women) and you lost sight of yourself. So where do you go to find it? I wouldn't assume that it would be laying along side of the hoe stroll.

Until next time bloggers... "you better find yourself Anna Mae" *in my best Ike Turner voice" LMAO!!