Emotionally Stable

Here we are, back into relationship drama. Can you guys tell that I've been feeling some type of way lately? Well, I'm sorry to burn your eyes red with my bullshit, but I'm sure someone is loving the smell of this material. I would hate to sound like a stick-up-the-ass, but I know what you guys are going to say. LOL!! So I'll go ahead and claim it; YES!! I am a woman!! But I'm a woman with common sense. So let's jump on top of this matter like it's the biggest and juiciest dick known to man-kind, and ride it until it's sore and red (notice the sexual frustration, as well). OK... maybe that's too much but whatever.

To the point: a goal for a man or a woman, normally, starts out as finding someone who is compatible to them. We click. We share X/Y/Z. We have so much in common. Together we make sense. Now, all is fair in these qualities one look for in the beginning, but let's start getting into the middle, when we begin to look for the seriousness after the fun and games. We are so worried about who can keep a job and pay a bill. We are so worried about what they have and what they do not. But who has ever sat down and thought of the emotional stability to be gained (or not gained) from being in a relationship. You know what type of an emotional wreck you can be from time to time. Whether or not you suffer from a minor case of bi-polar or schziphrenia, LOL!! But, never the less, you have your eye set on the prize and you have to ask yourself, could whatever you claim your ideal "prize" to be, make up for a lack of passion and mental satisfaction? Are we or are we not looking for the full package? And do we or don't we go through hard patches in our lives? So with that being said, would you rather stay because your bills are paid OR do you leave because there is no backbone to sustain your neediness? Make up your mind people!! What the hell is it that you want?!! LOL!!

So let's focus on emotional and mental psychosis wants and needs. Your levels of commitment. What goes and what stays. If we decide to devote ourselves to a person for whatever reasons, then I would assume that someone would have some type of say-so as to what habits need to go and what drama is worth putting up with. What we should do is just lay down the law from jump street. How else are we going to know what our partners can handle when certain situations come to light? Or,to be on the safe side of things, we could just let things flow freely and as long as the other person is not cheating, then we are in the clear? NOT!!! But if we look deep into this point I'm trying to make, you will realize that most of the time, cheating comes from a lack of emotional stability within the relationship. Cheaters will come up with the stupidest lines that sound a little something like this, "I'm sorry. It just happened." Really?! Let's be honest here, the real reason that your ass dipped out is because there was somebody else that made up for what you felt your partner was lacking. SO, instead of you asking for it, you go another route or maybe your request kept being dismissed. As if you haven't already hurt your partner's feelings enough, it wouldn't hurt you to tell the truth as to why you did it. And let me just clarify, I am speaking of cheaters with a purpose. Not habitual cheaters. We will discuss that at a later date, but either way, it's not right.

I take pride in the emotional support being given and received in my relationships. If I feel that the "facts of life" cannot be balanced along with your extracurriculars (because I feel a partner is not necessary, at least not a permanent one anyway) then I feel there is no point in being in a relationship. We have the people in this corner who get married because they have awesome resumes and together they can make a shit load of money. Over in the other corner, we have the couples that can't get enough of one another because the sex is fucking awesome. Where is the line drawn for the real stability and foundation of it all? I thought the search began because we were looking for our soulmates? That emotional stability. A gain in self worth, self esteem and all of that good shit. Not to be emotionally crippled by a lack of passion because you chose to look forward to how much more you could better your future by finding a partner with 10 degrees.

When all else fails, look to yourself for that gain. No one can love you better than you already love yourself.

Untill next time bloggers...