Bros Before Hoes

*Rolling my eyes* Really?!

Once upon a time, there were some kids who, met, grew up together, and shared a bond. Example: John met Dave. Dave introduced John to Bill. Bill ordained Bob into the clan and John's god-brother just so happen to move into town during everyone's 5th grade year. You couldn't see 1 without seeing all 10 of them. And together, they were one. How sweet.... for a bunch of 10 yr old's!!

I'm trying my hardest not to sound like a woman, here. But, I swear you guys leave me no choice. I want to understand what is going on in your big heads (not the little one, at least not this go around). So feel free to fill me in on this concept here. It is a known factor that as we grow up, we continue to hold our friends near and dear to our hearts. True indeed, true friends serve a purpose. And whatever that purpose may be, they are pretty much known to be there through thick and thin because that's what best friends do. It's the next best thing to being in a relationship,(only because there is no sex involved in this one.... maybe). But, what happens when someone breaks the G-code, disrupts the commandments of the "Bros before Hoes" Bible? I reference the guys because I believe that you all take it way more serious than the ladies. Yes, I know about the "chickies before dickies" or whatever. But you see, for some odd reason, when it comes down to the fellas, I have found out that even if "the pact" was made back when they were all in elementary school on the blacktop, at the northside of the swing set up under the basketball goal... that bullshit still sits with them until they are grown ass men (which is fine, I get it). But if you ask me (which I know you probably won't and don't want to hear it), in my opinion, some things are better left on the blacktop, or how else do you expect to grow? Because even after everyone has settled down, had babies, began careers and whatnot, there still remains the sacredness of this bond that was shared in that very spot. And according to my experiences, it seems that the "pact" that they made, inclines them to practically get away with murder when in a relationship. The ladies are automatically expected to understand because they been boys since kindergarten. Jealousy? Noooo. Moreso wondering, when does the sacredness comes into play with the person that you plan to spend the rest of your life with?

Let's begin with the INTERFERENCE. Now that these little boys are turning into men, and they maybe/maybe not have gotten over their hoe phases, the point is... they all found a new hobby which consisted of pussy, fucking and a female. It was all fun and games back in high school and maybe even college, but now they are or are suppose to be above the madness and probably fell into an entrapment that involves a routine of dates and mushy shit with the same female. NOOOO!! Not the same female!!! What happened to playa-status? The end is near because next on the list in this situation is your bros are feeling some type of way, or it turns into a domino effect and they'll go catch them a fiesty feline too. If you got a girl, then I got to have a girl too. If you cheat on your girl, then I will cheat on mine too. *sigh* oooh, the life of brotherhood. The life that has 110% potential to ruin your future, if allowed.

How this effects me: When I say "me", I am speaking for every woman that has had to endure having a relationship with one man and all 20 of his friends. This could possibly be a 1 in a million type ordeal, but I swear if anyone has ever had to endure this type of torture, please speak now or forever hold your insanity. I'm thinking that this could possibly be worst than a "momma's boy". You are, now, your "Brother's Keeper". So every time that a situation arises, a conflict occur, or whatever random, non-important event takes place, he has to be the first one to the scene or his loyalty will be questioned. And I have to admit, my self-appointed Psych degree has failed in this particular area. Although I understand the need for friendships and the importance of loyalty, I will never understand how it will ever be more important than the "normal" future that people usually look forward to. I've never understood how someone over 30 years old, under 30 or around 30, or maybe even older, could make the famous comment, "my boys are going to always be there, women come and go." LMAO!!! I guess in certain instances, that may be true. But if you made that same pact that you made with your boys back on the blacktop, with your woman, it could possibly balance out this equation. I swear, men can be professionals at complicating things.

So let's wrap this up in a nutshell. When does it stop? At what age does a man realize (if a friend is the true friend that he is suppose to be) the understanding that growth has/will become necessary, outside of a simple friendship? Do you fake the funk like your friendship is just that tight because you are scared of getting stoned by the crew? Or is there really no excitement in settling down and becoming a family man? Why be in a relationship if your first priorities consist of assisting and accomodating the clan? Is it really necessary to organize your plans around the same time as one another? For example: one of the bros decides he wants to chill with his girl today, so everyone else does the same thing (even though they would rather be with each other) o_O lol Yeah, I thought so too;) But in reality, is this healthy or am I just tripping? I guess this is one of those things that I will never understand.

Until next time bloggers...