Would You Want Your Daughter With Someone Like You?

Those of us, adults, that have common sense and kids, usually live most of our lives by way of "example". Everything has to be taken personal, serious, and with the most precaution. We have to set examples. Don't ask me why or who said it. I think it's somewhere floating in the force field of the Universe. So with that being said, what type of example are you setting? In addition, do you feel that the lifestyle you live now, whether pre or post child, do or doesn't have an engraved impression on their future upbringing? No. I'm not talking about the image that you would or do showboat for them, but your past and your footprints that which you have made for yourself. Not the life that you "so-called" try to front like you are Holy maintain for your family (what type of house, your job, and so on), but the life that which you live once you walk out the door. I have to admit, my friends, I have been a little caught up on images here lately. But I figured we would keep circling around the merry-go-round until we have a breakthrough.

I have heard, quite often, a guy blurting out the fact that he would want someone like his mother momma's boy. Or we can reference Beyonce's song striking a solid note to a tune professing the fact that she would want someone like her Daddy. And my question is, after hearing your child confess that they have realized what it is that they want from another human being, would you/could you give yourself credit for portraying an awesome image and feel accomplished for the mere fact that your child adores you just that much? Let's not forget, you are not just a parent. Parents are the people that set examples. You are someone totally different when you are out of plain sight of your children or at least until they come of age. Trust me... LOL!! I'm a parent. So, would you run with the ball thinking, "how sweet" and it would be wonderful if your child could end up with someone like you? Or do you smile and do away with the gruesome thought of your child/ren ending up with someone like you? Do you scare yourself into an awakened coma, zoned and painfully reminiscing about the people you have hurt in the past? Or do you begin a routine of prayers that your seed gets the YOU, here and now and not the YOU from your fucked up past? This brings us to the stories behind facts that "the grass isn't greener" and "what glitters ain't always gold"... Just when you think you're the shit! lol... Pump your breaks Cadillac! Let's marinate in this image for a minute or 2. You are you. No cut cards. Straight, no chaser.

Adult or child... there are more visual observants rather than those auditory or verbal people. When you say/hear, "I would love to be with someone like them", do you not understand that this is just another human being who eat, shit and breathes just like the next? And that they too, shall come with flaws? No one is perfect and no one is being asked to be. But wouldn't you want to be all that you could be? Not for the army, but for the Queen Bitch Karma. No one says "I'm going to fuck as many people as I can when I grow up", or "I'm going to break people's hearts." No one sees themselves as a pimp, player, hoe, bullshitter, etc. No one banks on swimming through the grit and grim when setting out to find that one person that can give us whatever it was that we saw our mom or dad receiving. No one banks on being heartbroken. And when WE, Yes! WE. are out here suiting up for the fun and games, no one stops to think, "Damn! That could have been my son/daughter." I wonder how I would feel if my son came back to me and said, "mom, *enter hoodrat name here*, keyed my car and slashed my tires." Although, I am at a point, now, where my patience isn't easily altered by stupidity; it would still be a slap in the face for my baby to have to experience the stupidity that I, once, projected onto another's property for being so damn stupid. On top of, knowing the type of bullshit I have put up with, when dealing with men, how would I manage my daughter's anger or frustration when she experiences her first, "he cheated on me"?

How can anyone be so sure of themselves? I don't think anyone take notes of the way that we receive our blessings. You pray for something so hard and once you receive it, you are faced with the reality behind it. No one ever said that it would be like this. This isn't what I signed up for. I quit! When growing up, children come up with bright ideas and dance in bubbly dreams as to how they see themselves or how they would like for their life to be. Oohh... the memories! Something that we all, more than likely, saw or had experienced somewhere at some time or another. But just because my daughter saw her daddy bringing mommy flowers every other Friday, doesn't necessarily mean that life is sugarcoated on chocolate. You give off a visual (or set an example) saying this is how mommy should be treated. BUT, babygirl also can't can't seem to grasp the fact or understand why mommy is still sad. Do you get my point here? And even though you are instilling one visual effect in her presence, there is always another visual that she has to process, because guess why... it takes 2, and mommy was left at the house with a funky attitude (visual 2). Daddy's little girl grows up looking for someone like daddy thinking she'll receive those flowers every other Friday the same way mommy did. But the kicker she never knew was that Daddy only bought mommy flowers because every other Friday was his playdate with ....

Are you sure you would want your daughter with someone like you?

Until next time bloggers....