The Shelf Bitch

This is a damn good preventative method to keep any female down. A way to keep her from everything that she really wants in a man (of her own) and for the family that she already has or hopes to create. Recognizing the fact that this is what you are is the hard part and even harder to except. A lot of women could even get this confused as being the "down ass bitch". Let's contrast the 2, "down ass bitch" can also be seen in situations like baby-momma drama, or just a random hood bitch that really loves this guy and he probably loves her but she got a lot bit of craziness in her. Too much crazy to settle down with but he knows he can always count on his baby-momma... smh. The "down ass bitch" is the real do-do brains because they actually know and keep up with what the man is doing and put themselves on their very own pedestool: Down ass bitch talking, "That's just some dirty hoe! Whatever! He comes home to me every night." LMAO!! Sike boo boo! Yours and everybody elses. He just spends the rest of his night with you. I thought long and hard about myself as well as other females around me (which are very few), however it seems that this title has a big place in the heart of dummies relationships.

First off, let me give you the run down of "the shelf bitch". This bitch is the shit!! This bitch is bad! She looks good. She smells good and can hold her own. She is the best well-rounded female a man could ever come into contact with. Wifey material. She does everything that your average independent woman does and won't ask for a thing. This is usually the woman that guys won't holla at but will question her why she isn't married yet and what he would do if given the chance. She doesn't hesitate to announce that she is single, however she kindly gives off a reserved impression that she's really not available. Poor things. These women usually fall in this category after long-lived relationships, the birth of the baby, just a friends that turned into friends with benefits, and probably some others that I have not listed here. Moving on... this scenario usually comes into play because the man is not ready for the real responsibilities that comes with being a real adult. Maybe it's not that he can't handle the responsibilities but he would rather not be attached or joined at the hip while doing so. She grows up, looking for love and he grows apart, looking for his boys and video games. SO, instead of going headstrong into the last couple of stages of adulthood, he nice and neatly places the "love of his life" on display as the trophy. Give her whatever she wants and whatever she needs as long as he can continue to play.

So let's talk about these sorry-ass-no-good men that place these women on the shelves. Ok, they may be alrite while on the clock. But these motha-feenies have issues. Scared to grow up. They know they could (or do) have a good woman by their side that could be that much needed backbone (that most men need), but they want to "live their lives" or "not be held down" (I guess this is what the women prevent). smh... They give this woman just enough act-right (which really ain't shit) to keep her appetite content and her mouth closed. Of course he sees the potential that this woman contains and that's the reason he keeps her at arm's reach. That is, only if she allows him to, which most shelf women do. If he needs her to be by his side at a specific event, she's going to be there. If he needs her to fix his meal, she's going to do it. If he needs an ego booster to be held and rubbed on, she is always ready and available with no prior commitments and no questions ask. Like I said, this is the perfect wife material. KEYWORD: material.

Ok. Class is over and the definitions are out the way, so let's look more closely into this situation here. Shelf bitches aren't man-made. Most men think that they (meaning themselves) withold something that she really likes, wants or needs. That's definitely not the case at all. Truth be told, shelf bitch doesn't like drama and she settles for less feeling that in due time, it will turn into more. Not to mention, she has lots and lots of patience. The truth also tells us that there really isn't anything that is making her stay put on her dusty little shelf because whatever it is that this "winner" has, she can honestly find it somewhere else. She knows this. All of it. But, she's lazy and doesn't feel like searching or playing the field. She feels there is no need to fuck around or even began to put herself through the horrors of dating because it's just too much headache putting up with new attitudes and, worst of all, new bullshit. She could possibly be thinking that maybe one day he will grow up and see the light and come with the wedding ring that she had always hoped for or maybe just a real relationship, period. OR... she probably already knows that it will never be nothing and she'll just play in the sandbox with him until somebody better comes along. Soooo... "winner with the trophy", truth be told once again, you really ain't shit. She's only still sitting there because no other "real" man has came and swept her off her feet on top of the fact that most women on their grown woman status don't make time for boy toys they barely know. LOL!

Ladies, if you are feeling like this could be you, then that is ok. Most shelf bitches are sometimes undecided about what it is that they really want. At some point, you have to be ready and willing to put your foot down and just live the complete single life without hassle OR the wait. If you really want to get down and dirty, we can discuss what the damn trophy winner is doing besides dusting off his most prized posession at his convenience. You have to give it to him, this player really knows how to play the game while you are on looking quite fetching in his display case. Although you are the only one that is holding it down in the armoir, he's out flaunting his winnings. He's probably clubbing, chit-chattin it up with the groupies, or maybe even fucking one or two of them. He's admired because his crew knows that he has a prize piece at her home where he is free to come and go as he pleases. He doesn't live there, so he's not required to come in at a decent hour or to even come in at all. Now that there are no ties due to whatever situation got the 2 of you here in the first place, he's gained quite a bit of stability which means that he can keep and promote his well-known reputation as well as perform his manly duties when it comes down to helping you pay bills, assisting with your handyman needs, hitting you off with some dick or whatever you may call on him for. He's most definitely going to be there at the drop of a dime. It may take him some time. But that's only because he got to beat the other bitches off who he doesn't give a flip about (let the down ass bitch tell it).

Guess your ego could feel a little full knowing you have some smidget of control over the situation but only to an extent because it is against the rules for you to do you at your own given will. Shelf bitch has to choose her spot. She has to maintain her spot. Cater to him and only him. No fun for you. No numbers for you. Just him. Either you are on the shelf or you get sent back to the manufacturer to be re-titled for the next winner. He may put up a fight but it won't be until well down the line after you find another man that is 10x's better than he is/was. However in the meantime, your ass is just here to sit pretty on his top shelf. Well out of reach of sneaky admirers and sticky fingers.

With all this being said, I suggest you find out where you fit in. I guess it's safe to say that you aren't chasing after him. That may help you feel a little better. But I don't know which one is worse, chasing after him or waiting around while he soil his royal oats. lol.. The ultimate word for any woman that plays second fiddle to any one/thing is queen of boo-boo-da-fool. And ladies, we have all been there and some of us are still there. It's only right to play the shelf bitch at least once in your life. LOL!! It may feel good from time to time to have a man damn near kissing your ass, but we all know the truth. And if you you didn't, you know now. If you like your spot in his armoir, then keep it. Make sure you stay stocked up on your can of Pledge. If the shelf is NOT the spot for you, then I suggest you take a big leap and walk away from it.

Until next time bloggers...