Beauty and the Beast: Manipulator vs. Enabler

Mind-Fuck-ER vs Mind-Fucked UP is really what I wanted to title this post. But I figured that probably would send everyone into a conniption and I didn't want to come off so abruptly. I do try my best to stay in a steady monotone. LOL!! But I have to admit that when I came up with these thoughts the other night (while under the influence), I found this shit to be rather humorous (have ya'll noticed I laugh at myself quite often?) on top of humiliating because I have seen myself in the enabling position. While we are on this subject, as you read along, make sure you map out the qualities in your own characteristics to rule out that this is not you. Let's get right into it. This post might just be a long one...

Here, in the left hand corner, let's begin with the wack ass Manipulator/Mind Fuck-er/the Beast. What a fucked up ass individual!! The manipulator is a control freak, the bastard/bitch that rocks the cradle. They all have this suaveness about them; master minds behind the art of convincing, persuation, and being a heartless ass. The smoother they are (because they have been doing this for years) the harder you get fucked (in the ass. no lube) They have a way of using "swag" (I hate that word) to receive anything that they want out of you, whether it's your pussy/dick,  your money, your time, your fucking common sense. Notice that I said RECEIVE and not TAKE. Once you have been talked into adding Satan's name to your bank account, you basically began to feel the wrath of, "you-have-gots-to-be-dumb-as-hell-syndrome". I'm just saying. These people are so conniving, that they will offer to help you and then re-route your whole thought process into you doing it yourself. They use their hypnosis abilities (the mojo) while you are awake to con you into believing that you are the one with the problem. They are attention whores. But not just anybody's attention whore... they fiend for your attention and then in turn make you their whore. They will hit you with some quick-slick shit so fast, that you won't know who/what kicked you in the ass; all while denying the whole thing some days or weeks later, making you feel like you have just lost your cotton-pickin' mind. "Well maybe it was your fault?"... that's just the mojo working on you. Whatever it is, just remember it's your problem! Not theirs. (that's the mojo talking again)

Manipulative people can seemingly be very affectionate, caring and understanding. All while you have no idea that you are being swooned out of whatever it is that they are in need of or searching for. You serve one purpose and one purpose, only. That is to be their bitch. They have the power to make you feel guilty about shit that belongs to you (your car, your house, even your mind) or not being able to provide for them whatever they feel they need or want (or not need. it doesn't matter because you're going to do it for them anyway) These snakes have the power to over-power an entire room with their ignorance and spoiled brat anecdotes. Before you know it, this fucker has injected their venom in you where you find that it's too late to take the proper precautions to suck and spit. smh. Guess where their asses are? Off manipulating someone else or either partying without one thought about you or the funky mood they left you in. Their excuse sounds something like, they had to get away from you to clear their mind. While they're getting away, you are still spinning in this tornado they created. They have no responsibility when it comes down to your emotional stability. Don't forget, that's YOUR fault. It's all about them and you either get wit' it or get lost. Once it's time to kiss and make up (on their time) they'll tell you what you want to hear and then replay this footage all over again. It's a constant cycle. Only cure is to get up and get the fuck out!

Now that we have established what your partner is, let's talk about what you are. The dummy Enabler/Fuck-ed Up. And honestly, there is no beauty in this. But first, let's depict the difference in being helpful and being an enabler. Helping someone is due to that person being unable to do or complete a task on their own. They need help. When enabling someone, you are doing something for someone (voluntarily because you're under the mojo) that they are completely capable of doing their damn selves but they choose not to because they have your dumb ass to wait on them. You are effecient with scheduling and organizing their agenda. You just have to be the dependable one because if not, the mojo this person has on you can easily send you on a Grand Vacation to Guilt. You just can't say "NO" or you will feel like a failure, incomplete, unaccomplished, OR guilty (of course). And honestly, that's not the case at all. Once again, it's the effects of the mojo. No doubtingly, you are good at what you do, in which is probably why you are the chosen one. BUT... you are also vulnerable and could be ruled out as a punk, gullible, or even weak.... lol! Never confuse these feelings with being in love. It's a very thin line. Just keeping it 100. But, really, it's not that you are that much of a softee; you're on the mojo and you're made to believe that you are doing your part for the community; giving back., trying to be a helping hand. But in reality, you are being conned or a nicer phrase may be, "taken for granted".

Promoting the manipulators behavior only makes them a bigger ass. This means that you are the contributor to those butt shots. I know it doesn't seem that way, and this may be a tough pill to swallow; but let's just be grown up about this situation, take heed of the information and own up to this bullshit you created. If you can't say "no", then you are their number 1 hype man. SO, all some of this is partly your fault. You're the "yes"-man and people with genuinely, kind and giving hearts are always the first to be preyed upon. Your helping someone just may not be helping the situation. The only thing that you are really doing is feeding a flesh-eating ego and you are the peice of meat. The ego processes this information and commence to bouncing you on your strings like the puppet that you are. But accept the fact that you will never.. ever-ever-ever-ever receive the same amount of work, effort, or respect in return.

So the only thing left to do is to turn on your BS tracker to know when you are knee deep in bullshit. Once you've gained your sanity and common sense back, sit back and look over YOUR situation: cause and effects, trials and error, stupid is as stupid does, etc. etc. How much money you have lost, time wasted and what shit you have to show for it. In this thought process, the bullshitter does not matter. If you are more afraid of what condition this asshole will be in before you are worried about your position, then you are an enabler knee deep in the shit!! Normally, enablers failed to realize that there is even a problem. I call that situation "D-E-N-I-A-L". And when you are that deep, you need to call in some heavy-hitters that's going to give it to you straight. In the meantime, regardless of the situation, keep your BS radar on at all times. You will be surprised at how many wolves hide in sheeps clothing.

Until next time bloggers....